3 Tips To Make Your Summer Fling Last [JACK'S WORDS OF WISDOM]
True romantics believe love doesn’t have seasons. Realistic people do.
Which is why summertime is amazing: Opportunities for socialization are at an all-time high. Between festivals, carnivals, amusement parks and plain old hanging out at pools or parks, you’re bound to meet someone new. These new relationships blossom into something romantic, and there you have it — a summer fling.
The misconception is that a summer fling is similar to a friends with benefits situation and must end by the time the leaves change colors. But that all depends on the type of people you and your partner are. Do NOT just assume that you’re not a priority, and do NOT assume your time is limited unless you’ve both verbally established that. That’s the number one way summer flings finish prematurely: lack of communication.
If you find yourself in a situation where you’d like the romance to last but your partner is unsure, you might need to put in a little bit of extra work to prove that the relationship is worth while.
If you don’t already, take your partner out. And I mean out out, not just to Canalside. Go spend time with each other without the major distractions or the ‘summertime’ feel. The Buffalo Zoo is a great place to walk around and talk without the blaring sounds of carnival music or smell of deep fried everything. It also helps eliminate any pressure from super-intimate dates like dinner for the time being.
Spend time together doing things that you would normally do, not things you do because it’s summertime. If you’re both students, help each other prepare for the next semester, or spend time planning trips to visit each other if your school is outside of Buffalo. Giving each other the feel that you could tailor each other into your ‘regular’ lives adds hope that the presumably short-lived summer fling.
Show initiative. As I said before, communication is key. You need to prove that you want it to last, which means you might need to work for it. Life is different once the fall hits for a lot of people and you have to be willing to transition this new person into your life. Make time for each other once the fall hits and be sure to keep the excitement alive.
The summer is a great time to meet someone because you’ve got all the time in the world to build a strong relationship. Take that strong foundation and continue building.
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